Love on Each Other, and Cherish Those Moments, and Tell People Their Stuff Mattered to You

Just a thought for today: If you think the work/ general existence/example of creative shit etc that someone's doing makes a personal difference to you, tell them. I got the opportunity to give feedback to someone like that this week and then someone else returned the love to me too, and it was wonderful. I especially appreciate when I get the compliments for being my weird fucking self, and especially this week cause queer folx need to love on each other just a little harder right now.


The feedback from people you hugely respect, who are excelling at their art form(s), who take the time to compliment you in a non-circle jerk kind of way, is a huuuge deal. I got some very early, kind, but balanced commentary about my comedy, even back in the day when I was just blowing stupid outrageous hot air on Twitter, and I think it was partially responsible for motivating me to keep at it all. And I also specifically think that cishet people actively encouraging/nurturing/casting/giving opportunities to people who don't fall under that umbrella and/or who're whte is extremely significant. Not talking abstract woke performance here but giving to the more-marginalized people around you daily. Cause honestly it does mean something to us and we do notice it, especially when it's a situation between authentic friends with longevity of connection. Authentic uplift of the people around you is a thing, and in the best cases it comes not from saviorism but from a desire to create equity and a level playing field, cause the one that only includes certain types of people is BORING anyway.

(Just don't become more successful than the person who complimented you. That would be terrible!) XD

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