Accepting People of Different Opinions

 

I am trying to get better at accepting people of a wider range of personal opinions. My problem is not so much taking it personally anymore (or is it) but feeling that when a person says and does certain *types* of things, especially when it comes off with a tone that mocks marginalized people, it’s really hard to not let some of that reflect on the depth of who they are. But maybe I need to question that too, because a lot of people have oppressive, whyte supremacist programming that gets in the way of their truth. I do feel like we all have some level of bias/prejudice, internalized oppression or low-level bigotry. But at the same time, even though I’m trying to accept people with a wider range of approaches and opinions now, I also feel that people do show themselves, and I’ve been in so many situations where I was privy to things that no one else seemed to take note of, or that they ignored because it wasn’t harming them directly. That’s upsetting to be a part of too, because it just makes you feel gaslit after a while.

A lot of really rough offenders that I’ve seen in this regard have been people who’ve professed to have been “evolved” on a spiritual level, but there’s still a side of them that they don’t notice could be impacting people harmfully.

Is “I’m an occultist” the abusive boyfriend equivalent of “I’m working on myself?” Like, I don’t want to judge if you’re about lust, power, social clout and cool kid points. But I guess if you have any kind of a “troll” personal energy as an edgy stand-in for actually connecting with people, I’m probably not gonna end up too close to you.




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